CONFLICT RESOLUTION for Children ???? Assertive ???? Aggressive ???? Passive ???? Passive-Aggressive

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Welcome to the courtroom, where people sort out their conflicts. But don’t worry, because now we’re going to learn the best way to resolve them.

Let’s start with what a conflict is. A conflict occurs when two or more people with different interests or ways of thinking don’t agree. This can create a problem between them. Conflicts are part of our daily lives, but the key is that we can learn from them and, more importantly, resolve them.

For example, two classmates are having a conflict over how to do their art project. One wants to use paint, and the other prefers to use clay. As you can see, they don’t agree; they have different positions. It’s important to understand that a conflict isn’t a fight where you shout or say hurtful things. This is just how some people deal with conflict, but it’s not the best approach. Instead, we should ask ourselves a few questions: What caused the conflict? Why did we shout or get angry with each other? That is the real reason for the conflict.

There are four ways to deal with a conflict, and each one has its own communication style: aggressive, passive, passive-aggressive, and assertive.

Let’s start with aggressive communication. This is when we communicate disrespectfully by shouting or talking back. This doesn’t create many opportunities for dialogue. When we communicate like this, we prioritize our own thoughts and forget about the other person. While we might achieve something in the short term, we will probably hurt others’ feelings in the long term. The consequences aren’t good; aggressive communication can lead to more conflicts and make us feel angry, tense, and guilty about our actions.

Now, let’s take a look at passive communication, also known as avoidant communication. This occurs when we don’t express our thoughts or remain silent out of fear of what others might say or do. We may avoid eye contact or walk away from the situation. While this may seem easier, if we don’t talk about a conflict, we can’t resolve it, leading to long-term frustration.

Next, we have passive-aggressive communication. This style seems passive at first but has aggressive intentions. It occurs when we don’t directly express what we want and instead convey it through our actions, facial expressions, or tone of voice. When we don’t communicate clearly, misunderstandings can arise, which doesn’t resolve the conflict and can make it even bigger. Additionally, not expressing our feelings clearly can lead to frustration or anger.

Finally, we have assertive communication. This is when we express our ideas while respecting those of others. Here, we clearly state our side of the story while considering others’ perspectives. We negotiate to reach win-win agreements, allowing us to resolve conflicts and feel satisfied.

Empathy plays a crucial role in resolving conflicts. When we put ourselves in the other person’s shoes, we can better understand their point of view and look for the best solutions.

So, what do you think is the best way to communicate to resolve a conflict? That’s right—assertive communication is our best option. It allows us to express ourselves and set boundaries while being respectful and considering others’ feelings.

In the example of the classmates working on their art project, they reached an agreement using assertive communication. They decided to use both paint and clay, and everyone was happy. The communication style we use in a conflict will significantly impact how we resolve it.

Put assertive communication into practice, and you’ll see how easy it is to resolve any misunderstanding.

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