Ethical dilemma: Would you lie? – Sarah Stroud

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The lesson explores the ethical dilemma of whether to lie to ensure a friend arrives on time for a dinner meeting, weighing the perspectives of two philosophers: Immanuel Kant, who argues that lying is inherently wrong, and John Stuart Mill, who suggests that lying can be justified if it leads to greater happiness. It highlights the complexity of lying, emphasizing the tension between respecting an individual’s autonomy and the potential benefits of a small deception. Ultimately, the lesson encourages reflection on how to balance respect for others with the desire to create positive outcomes in interpersonal relationships.

Ethical Dilemma: Would You Lie?

Setting the Scene

You’ve been planning to introduce your friend Carey to your acquaintance Emerson, and everything is set for a dinner meeting on Friday night. Both are excited to meet, but there’s a hitch—Carey has a habit of being late, sometimes by as much as 20 or 30 minutes. This makes you wonder if Carey doesn’t see punctuality as important.

The Temptation to Lie

To ensure Carey arrives on time, you consider telling them that dinner is at 6 PM instead of the actual time, 6:30 PM. You believe this relationship could be beneficial for Carey, and you don’t want them to miss out on this opportunity. Even though Emerson might eventually notice Carey’s tardiness, arriving on time for this first meeting could give their relationship a fair start.

The Moral Question

But is it right to lie? According to Immanuel Kant, a philosopher known for his absolutist views, lying is always wrong, no matter the situation. He believed that there is a strict moral rule against lying.

In contrast, John Stuart Mill, a utilitarian philosopher, argued that lying is only wrong if it results in less overall happiness. While many lies can lead to unhappiness, there are situations where lying might create more happiness. In such cases, utilitarians might say that lying is not only acceptable but could be a moral obligation.

The Complexity of Lying

Even if you find Kant’s view too rigid, Mill’s perspective might seem too relaxed. Most people feel uneasy about lying, even when they think it’s the right thing to do. This suggests that lying is inherently problematic, even if it leads to a positive outcome.

In this situation, lying to Carey could be seen as paternalism—making decisions for someone else’s benefit without their input. While this might be acceptable for a child, it seems disrespectful to treat an adult this way. Lying would deny Carey the chance to manage the situation according to their own values and could also be seen as disrespectful to Emerson.

Balancing Happiness and Respect

How do you balance the potential happiness of a successful meeting against the risk of disrespect? Kant’s followers would argue that respect is essential to moral behavior, while Mill’s followers would focus on maximizing happiness. Some philosophers suggest that such dilemmas should be resolved individually, considering the specific details and people involved.

Your Decision

So, what will you choose to do in Carey’s case? Will you prioritize honesty and respect, or will you consider the potential happiness that might come from a small lie?

  1. Reflecting on the article, how do you personally weigh the importance of honesty versus the potential benefits of a lie in social situations?
  2. Have you ever faced a similar ethical dilemma where you had to choose between honesty and a potential positive outcome? How did you handle it, and what did you learn from the experience?
  3. Considering Kant’s and Mill’s philosophies, which perspective resonates more with your personal beliefs, and why?
  4. How do you think Carey would feel if they found out about the lie? Would this change your decision on whether to lie or not?
  5. In what ways do you think lying could impact your relationship with both Carey and Emerson in the long term?
  6. How do you define respect in relationships, and how does this definition influence your decision-making in ethical dilemmas?
  7. What strategies could you employ to address Carey’s tardiness without resorting to lying?
  8. How do you balance the need for honesty with the desire to protect someone’s feelings or opportunities in your personal relationships?
  1. Debate: Kant vs. Mill

    Engage in a classroom debate where you and your classmates are divided into two groups. One group will defend Immanuel Kant’s absolutist view against lying, while the other will support John Stuart Mill’s utilitarian perspective. Prepare arguments and counterarguments, and present them to the class. This will help you understand the strengths and weaknesses of each philosophical stance.

  2. Role-Playing Scenarios

    Participate in role-playing exercises where you act out different scenarios involving ethical dilemmas similar to the one in the article. Take turns playing the roles of Carey, Emerson, and yourself. Discuss how different approaches to the situation might affect the relationships and outcomes. This activity will help you explore the practical implications of ethical theories.

  3. Reflective Journaling

    Write a reflective journal entry about a time when you faced an ethical dilemma involving honesty. Describe the situation, the decision you made, and the outcome. Reflect on how Kant’s and Mill’s philosophies might have influenced your decision-making process. This will encourage you to connect philosophical concepts to your personal experiences.

  4. Philosophical Roundtable

    Join a philosophical roundtable discussion with your classmates. Each student will present a brief summary of a real-world situation where lying was considered. Analyze these situations using Kant’s and Mill’s theories, and discuss whether the outcomes were justified. This will enhance your critical thinking and analytical skills.

  5. Creative Writing: Alternate Endings

    Write a short story that presents an alternate ending to the scenario in the article. Create two versions: one where you choose to lie to Carey and one where you decide to be honest. Explore the consequences of each choice and how they align with Kant’s and Mill’s philosophies. Share your stories with the class to see different perspectives on the ethical dilemma.

Your plan to set up your friend Carey with your acquaintance Emerson is finally coming together. Both individuals are eager to meet for dinner, and you’ve made a reservation for Friday night. However, an unsettling thought crosses your mind: Carey is often late—sometimes by 20 or even 30 minutes. It seems that Carey views punctuality as less important.

What if you told them dinner was at 6 instead of 6:30? That way, they might arrive on time. You really want this relationship to work, so should you consider bending the truth?

Take a moment to think about it. You believe this new relationship could be great for Carey, and you don’t want them to miss out before it even starts. Sure, Emerson may eventually learn about Carey’s tendency to be late, but if Carey shows up on time just this once, the relationship will at least have a chance to develop.

However, isn’t it morally wrong to lie? The absolutist position on lying, associated with philosopher Immanuel Kant, holds that lying is always immoral, regardless of the circumstances. This perspective suggests there’s a moral rule against lying that is absolute.

On the other hand, utilitarian philosopher John Stuart Mill would argue that lying is wrong only when it leads to less overall happiness. While many lies can create unhappiness, in some situations, including yours, lying might produce more happiness overall. In those cases, utilitarians argue that it’s not morally wrong to lie and might even be your moral duty.

Yet, if absolutism seems too strict, you might feel that the utilitarian stance is too lenient. Most people feel some regret about lying, even when they believe it’s the right choice. This suggests there’s something inherently objectionable about lying, even if it leads to a better outcome.

In this scenario, lying to Carey could be seen as paternalism—interfering with another person’s choices for their benefit. This might be acceptable for a child, but it seems disrespectful to treat an adult that way. Lying would take away Carey’s opportunity to handle the situation based on their own beliefs and values, which could also be seen as disrespectful to Emerson.

So how do you weigh potential happiness against the risk of disrespect? Followers of Kant would argue that treating others with respect is central to moral conduct, while followers of Mill would prioritize overall happiness. Other philosophers suggest that such conflicts should be resolved on a case-by-case basis, depending on the details and the individuals involved.

So, what will you decide in Carey’s case?

EthicalRelating to moral principles or the branch of knowledge dealing with these principles. – In philosophy class, we debated whether it is ethical to lie to protect someone’s feelings.

DilemmaA situation in which a difficult choice has to be made between two or more alternatives, especially ones that are equally undesirable. – The ethical dilemma of choosing between honesty and loyalty was a central theme in our critical thinking discussion.

LieAn intentionally false statement. – Philosophers often explore whether it is ever justifiable to tell a lie in order to prevent harm.

HappinessThe state of being happy, often considered in philosophy as the ultimate goal of human life. – Utilitarian philosophers like Mill argue that actions are right if they promote happiness and wrong if they produce the opposite.

RespectA feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements. – In ethical discussions, respect for others’ autonomy is a fundamental principle.

MoralityPrinciples concerning the distinction between right and wrong or good and bad behavior. – The course explored different theories of morality, including Kant’s deontological ethics.

KantA philosopher known for his work on deontological ethics, emphasizing duty and rules. – Kant’s philosophy suggests that actions are morally right if they are done out of duty and adhere to universal laws.

MillA philosopher known for his contributions to utilitarianism, which advocates for actions that maximize happiness. – Mill’s utilitarianism was a key topic in our philosophy class, highlighting the importance of consequences in ethical decision-making.

PhilosophyThe study of the fundamental nature of knowledge, reality, and existence, especially when considered as an academic discipline. – Philosophy encourages students to question assumptions and explore complex ideas about life and existence.

CriticalInvolving an analysis of the merits and faults of a work or concept, often requiring careful judgment. – Developing critical thinking skills is essential for evaluating philosophical arguments effectively.

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